The Autism Systems Strategist™ Coaching Experience

 

Autistic Child, Limited‑Verbal, School‑Bound?

Your Lifeline Starts Here. 

“Parents lose leverage in meetings not because they don’t care, but because they don’t have the playbook schools are using. The reason you feel powerless in IEPs? The school has a system. You don’t—yet.””

I am Tanyika, The Autism Systems Strategist™

 If you are here, you are looking for a TRANSFORMATION. I empower powerhouse autism parents of elementary-aged children with limited verbal skills bring the same confidence and control they lead with at work into their child’s school life through systems, strategy, and anchored calm.

I help you get:

  • Public School Ready

  • Communication Systems Ready

  • IEP Advocacy Ready

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We went from, this is not the right school setting within the first days of kindergarten to...

 

When my daughter Kendall was in kindergarten, I sat through what we called a “marathon IEP meeting.” The table was packed, principal, counselor, teachers, specialists all armed with binders, data, and systems.

I showed up with love, hope, and determination. But the truth hit hard: they had a system. I didn’t. That meant they led and I reacted.

The breaking point came when the school finally admitted: “Your baby is running amuck.” That day, Kendall was wearing a Cinderella dress and in that moment, my illusion that hope was enough was shattered.

So I built systems. Communication scripts. Advocacy routines. Playbooks that gave me leverage. And everything shifted: I stopped being the parent schools “updated” and became the parent they consulted.

The school said she didn’t belong. But with our systems, Kendall stayed until the end of 5th grade. We didn’t do it with hope alone—we did it with strategy, structure, and our own playbook.

Now, I teach powerhouse autism parents how to do the same—so you can walk into meetings with confidence, create calm at home, and finally lead with clarity instead of reacting in chaos.

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Our  Framework makes you:  Public School Ready, Communication Systems Ready , IEP Advocacy Ready 

 

The C.A.L.M. Framework™

C- Clear Communication

A- Advocacy Anchors

L- Leverage Supports

M- Measurable Progress

 


Know the truth every day — not just when schools decide to tell you.


Sentences that flip vague updates into clarity and collaboration.


Step into meetings as a strategist with leverage — not a worried parent.


Lock in predictable anchors that prevent drift and carry progress forward.

 

This is a transformation you walk away anchored, prepared, and proactive.

You run your career on systems.
Now it’s time to run your child’s school life the same way.

Whether you need a quick fix for what’s on fire, a fast-track reset, or a long-term transformation, my coaching experiences are designed for powerhouse autism parents of elementary-aged children with limited verbal skills who are ready to stop reacting and start leading.

👉 Momentum Sprint ($497) — relief and clarity for one urgent challenge.
👉 30-Day Reset Concierge ($1,997) — a done-with-you reset that anchors calm at home and confidence at school in just 30 days.
👉 3-Month Coaching Plan  — systems installed across home and school so fires don’t keep popping up.
👉 6-Month Coaching Experience — full transformation with anchored confidence, advocacy mastery, and momentum that lasts.

 

Your challenge handled—no more waiting for “someday”

✔ Challenge solved—completely
Whether it’s nailing your IEP strategy, finally stopping hour-long meltdowns, or tightening school-home communication, we’ll focus so you leave with it locked in—not half-finished.

✔ No more staring at a blank screen wondering what to say
Custom, ready-to-send email scripts and documents built for your exact situation. Every word is chosen to get results—fast—without the emotional drain of rewriting 10 times.

✔ A clear plan you can execute without me in the room
Step-by-step, so you know exactly what to do, when to do it, and how to tell it’s working—giving you total control and freeing up mental bandwidth for everything else on your plate.

🚫 No more lost months. Every week you delay, the problem stays the same (or gets worse), and you’re still carrying the full mental load alone.
✅ Yes to progress now. Because your child can’t wait for calm—and neither should you.

 

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Momentum Sprint $497

Quick Fix for What’s on Fire Now

  • 30 Days | 2 Sessions

  • ONE urgent challenge solved (IEP prep, meltdowns, or school communication)

  • Outcome: Relief + clarity for one big challenge

“Solve My Urgent Challenge”

30-Day Coaching Intensive Reset  $1,997

Fast-Track to Calm + Clarity in 30 Days

  • 30 Days | 4 Sessions (weekly)

  • Concierge build-out: home routines + school communication + advocacy scripts

  • Customized templates and daily visuals for YOUR child

  • Email support all month

  • Outcome: Calm at home + confidence at school, systems installed and ready

“I’m Ready for My Reset”

3-Month Coaching Plan Available

Systems Installed, Fires Prevented

  • 3 Months | 6 Sessions (bi-weekly)

  • Multiple challenges addressed: home systems + school advocacy

  • Full systems build-out (visuals, routines, scripts)

  • Bundled resources (Calm IEP Nerves, Blueprint to Calm, etc.)

  • Email support

  • Outcome: Calm + structure across home + school

6-Month Coaching Plan Available

Anchor Your Family in Calm + Confidence

  • 6 Months | 12 Sessions (bi-weekly)

  • Full transformation: home, school, advocacy, independence

  • Comprehensive alignment of all systems

  • Advanced scripts, advocacy docs, and roleplay for tough meetings

  • Full digital + mailed Anchor Binder

  • Extended email support

  • Outcome: Anchored confidence, advocacy mastery, and independence support

 

Ready to Take the Next Step?

You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Let’s create a game plan together.

 
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Powerhouse parents don’t avoid the hard skills.  Still Avoiding the Word “Wait”?

If you’re still avoiding “wait,” your life is stuck in HOLD. This free resource will help you build the one skill that unlocks calm, confidence, and independence.Your life is in a HOLD pattern. Let me show you how to break it.

👉 Yes, I want the free guide to teach waiting skills.

Yes, I’m ready to teach “wait.”

This is for you if…You’re used to being the expert but now you feel like the outsider. You want to advocate for your child without becoming “that parent.” You know your child you just need help communicating that to the team. You’ve stayed quiet in meetings out of fear of saying the wrong thing. You want support that doesn’t judge you and helps you stay in your power.

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NICE TO MEET YOU

I'm Tanyika Mayhew Butler

Meet Your Coach/Autism Parent Friend

I help autism parents go from surviving to structured, from emotional chaos to calm clarity.

You’re juggling meltdowns, messy routines, IEP stress, and a million questions Google can’t answer.
You’re educated. High-functioning. You hold it together in public.
But behind closed doors, you’re exhausted — and silently wondering:

Will this ever get easier?

I’ve been there.
As a mom to a now 23-year-old autistic daughter, I’ve lived the unpredictable days and the sleepless nights.
As an educator and school counselor, I’ve sat at the table where decisions get made — and watched parents freeze, unsure what to say or do. 

Through my coaching, I help families like yours:

✅ Find your voice when you don’t know what to say in IEP or school meetings
✅ Ask the right questions without feeling confrontational or confused
✅ Walk into the room with clarity and confidence, instead of fear or self-doubt
✅ Stay emotionally grounded when the conversation gets overwhelming
✅ Build calm, consistent routines at home that support your child’s needs and your peace of mind
✅ Reclaim time for yourself without guilt — because you matter too 

 Why I’m the Right Person to Guide You

You don’t need another theory. You need a strategist who has lived the systems—and knows how to build them.

For nearly 30 years, I’ve been a school counselor and educator, including 18 years in middle school where advocacy, crisis, and systems were daily reality. I’ve served as president of a state counselor association, held executive board positions, and earned awards for leadership.

But my greatest credential? I’ve walked this road at home.
I’m a wife of 26 years, a mother of two children just 14 months apart, and the parent of Kendall—now 23—with diagnoses of autism, ADHD, IDD, and EBD.

When professionals once told me, “Your baby is running amuck,” I didn’t just react. I built systems communication scripts, advocacy routines, visual supports that turned chaos into clarity.

Since then, I’ve authored books including A Krusade for Kendall, created the Building Bridges Autism Workbook, and designed tools that powerhouse parents across the country now use to walk into IEP meetings anchored, prepared, and respected.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about peace, clarity, and leadership.

👉 If you’re ready to stop reacting and start running your child’s school life like you run your career, book your Coaching Experience today.
Because your child needs support—and so do you.

 I have authored three books and turned a hobby of making jewelry into a side business PMJbyTMB on Etsy .
 

 

 

 

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